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Monday, March 25, 2013

"Through a Rapists Eyes." Please take the time to read this!

Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.
5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.
6] Number three is public restrooms.
7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.
8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.
5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.
6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.
2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .
b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
Source: Banoosh.com

Friday, March 22, 2013

Just Getting My Thoughts Out.

Are there any guys out there who just want to be friends? I find it crazy that most of the guys I know, talk with, or am around for a while, seem like they have one thing on their mind: flirting or dating. Now, I'm not saying that all guys are like that. I know some guys who want friendship, not a romantic relationship, with a girl. To any guys out there who hang out with girls sometimes and aren't flirty -- who want to have an actual conversation about things that mean something, not just tell jokes and flirt -- STAY THE WAY YOU ARE!!! I'm not into guys -- never dated, courted, or any other name for a romantic relationship between a guy and a girl -- but sometimes it is a relief to have a sensible conversation with a guy. I don't mean talking theology or psycology, or whatever-ology :p I just mean, a conversation that actually matters. There are very few guys that I talk with that seem to care about me at all beyond what pleasure they can get out of their time with me: laughs, flirting, whatever. And a lot of girls I talk with don't seem to care, either. They talk about fashion, boys, famous people, etc. And when I don't show an interest, I get the idea from them that anyone who doesn't like what they like, isn't worth the effort to get to know. Now, I'm not out to bash other girls, but, in all seriousness, they can be pretty silly, giggly, and vain sometimes. I know I'm no exception. It's just the way a lot of girls are wired. But, we can do something about it... called maturing. Yeah, I know maturing is something that happens over time, but it is also partially a choice. You will never mature if you don't choose to. If you think you can sit back and enjoy life with no work on your part, and somehow end up a good person with a good life, you are sadly mistaken. It takes working, sometimes working hard, to grow up. Also, it takes a work of God to set someone on the right path. I know that I myself wouldn't be at all matured if I wasn't a Christian. Right now, I don't care about dating/courting, don't care about fashion, and don't care a whole lot about what others think of me. I am very shy and nervous around new people, though, so if I act weird or giggly or barely talk, blame it on shyness. I have a lot of different ways I act around people I'm not around much, and how I act depends somewhat on how the person I'm with acts. So, any of you guys who know me outside of a computer screen, please, treat me like I know more than just clothes, lots of friends, and guys, because, in reality, I barely know any of those three, but I do know many things about other topics. I volunteer at the aquarium, I love animals, the outdoors, dancing, music, and the few friends I have. I'm a shy person and sometimes it's hard for me to break out of this shell of nervousness and hesitancy that I hide behind. You may not even realize it, but I am a very hesitant person. I over-analyze everything I do or want to do. I try to reach out sometimes, but everytime I get rejected or ignored, it takes something out of me. Here's a poem that I wrote about this. Some of you may have heard me give it in a class. It's called "The Odd One Out."

"I’m the odd one out.
I’m the one in the back
who sits by herself.
I don’t laugh at dirty jokes;
Don’t giggle about guys;
I’ve got an odd sense of humor
that nobody gets, but me.

I’m the odd one out.
I don’t use bad words.
I don’t take God’s name in vain,
Or laugh when others do.
I’m not a flirt,
Not a tomboy.
I’m just me.

I’m the odd one out.
I don’t like giving in.
But when I know I’m wrong,
I take it as well as I can.
I like arguing with friends,
But our fighting’s all play,
As you’ll know, if you’re around us long.

I’m the odd one out.
I don’t have many friends,
But with the friends I have,
I’m true to the end.
I’m shy, and don’t talk well,
but when I talk, I say the wrong things.
So I don’t talk at all.

I’m the odd one out.
If I’m with someone I don’t know,
I may as well be alone,
Because my mind goes blank,
My hands get shaky,
And the best I can manage is a
“Hi, how are you?... Oh, I’m good too.”

I’m the odd one out.
Forgive me if I ignore you.
Have pity if I barely try.
Because most likely
If I spoke up, I’d cry.
Please give me mercy,
Please give me grace,
Because it’s pretty hard to be
The odd one out."


Sunday, March 03, 2013

May God Have Mercy!

This makes me mad and sad at the same time.  I pray God will have mercy on this nation, and save (spiritually) these women who kill their children, and those who pressure them to do so. America needs help, and only God can give it.

Friday, March 01, 2013

I Need Help

To any of you other bloggers out there, I need some help knowing how to copyright my stuff. I may want to add poems, speeches, or stories to my blog sometimes, but I don't know how to copyright things. If you copyright stuff on your blog, or know how to, please leave a comment.

Update: Not Getting an Exchange Student

Well, after getting everything finished with the house, having pictures taken of the rooms, and filling out forms, we got an update: We won't be getting an exchange student. Apparently, there is a new Texas law that says that an exchange student can only share a room with one other person of the same gender and similar age. My sister and I are both (obviously) the same gender as the exchange student who was planning on coming, and we're all of similar ages; but, our house only has two bedrooms. My parents use one, and my sis and I share one. Which means it is impossible for us to get any exchange student unless we move or add onto our house. Both of which, as far as I know, are impossible at this time. We are hoping that the girl who was going to be coming here will still be in town somewhere, possibly with another family in our church, but we don't know. All is know is that God has answered our prayers: His will is being done, even if it makes us sad. I believe that even though my family is sad about this, we are content to rest in God's will. We may not know why God chose to make it impossible for us to get an exchange student right now, but I know He did it for good, whether our good, the exchange student's, or both.

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Spring Cleaning

We're getting close to the end.  Starting Sunday afternoon, my family has been rushing to get the house ready for an exchange student. Even though the student won't be here for another few months, we are getting pictures taken of all the rooms in the house as part of the process to get her. It's been a busy few days. My parents traded rooms with my sister and I. We've been cleaning the whole house, getting rid of some of our clothes and shoes to make room, finding a bed for her, etc. Today is the last day. We're having a bed delivered, a new kitchen sink and counter top put in, finishing vacuuming everything; and the pictures are getting taken at three this afternoon. While the process has been somewhat stressful, tiring, and rushed, I'm glad we're doing it. I can't wait to have another sister :)

On a side note, I will get the pictures of the cotillion up asap. My sister (she's the photographer and techy one in the family) is the one that uploads the pictures to the computer, and she isn't feeling well. When she's feeling better, I'll see if she can get the pictures onto the computer for me.

P. S. Anyone have an idea of what I should title this post? Comment with your ideas!  For now, it will be "Spring Cleaning."

Friday, February 22, 2013

Historical Cotillion!

I'm about to leave for the Historical Cotillion hosted by the local home school organization. This is the fourth or fifth one I've been to, and I can't wait! Usually I dress in regency era(think Jane Austen) clothes, but this time, I chose 50's! Definitely a new thing for me. I've never worn anything other than a regency dress, which is what most girls wear.  Pictures to follow tomorrow or Sunday.
Until then,

Saturday, February 16, 2013


I'm going a little anti-gun-control crazy today. I got these off of a page on Facebook... If anyone out there reading this is for gun-control...
No, the image above does not mean every person needs a gun, and no, I'm not saying you're wimpy if you don't have a gun. I don't have one either. But don't try to take away other people's guns because you don't want/have one.